KCB Readers (Top 10 Reasons Why Marriages Have Failed In Recent Times)

Most people do not even have the slightest idea of why they want to get married or are married. We must know that marriage is a growing process, it doesn’t happen all in one day and it is not rosy all the way. Think deep before you dive into it, especially if you cannot give a positive answer to this question; is your husband your best friend?

Below are possible issues that give rise to divorce in Nigeria and across the world.

1. Lack of understanding- it takes two to tangle. You cannot have a great marriage on the grounds of constant arguments and misunderstandings.

2. Immaturity- if your issues always have to reach a third party before it gets resolved then someone or neither of you are ready to be married. Marriage is for adults not toddlers.

3. Criticism- nothing is ever right to you. Its either he didn’t do it right or she just doesn’t know how to do anything good. Stop being a critic and start being a teacher

4. Defensiveness- if you think you are always in the right or you always have a reason for your actions, you cannot take the blame if it’s not necessary then you need to just stay single. Most marriages have fallen apart today because both parties are wearing the defence suit.

5. Blocking- your issues always escalate because neither of you want to sit down and talk about things. Someone is always busy or unavailable to listen. As much as you think you are running away from your issues, turn around and see them strolling behind you. Listen to your partner and sort out your issues.

6. Anger- you are always the first to reach your avatar, or become the angry Hulk. Get angry but only when it is necessary, not over squeezing the toothpaste from the middle instead of the bottom or getting on the bed with his shoes. Be angry but not for long.

7. Unforgiveness- you just cannot forgive that wrong, and now you have become bitter and have a heartache over it. That not marriage you are only killing yourself. Until you are ready to be a forgiving person stay single oooo, else your marriage won’t work.

8. Pride- nothing beats your high shoulders and ego. Pride stinks and that is the truth. Drop your ego, because the truth is, most people can’t stand it. When you start feeling too big to do things for your partner, your marriage starts falling apart. Your partner can only take so much. He or she has limits too.

9. Insensitivity- you don’t have time to notice things and study your environment and partner, something or someone else will help you. Most marriages that crash today, majority of the couples cannot even pin point the problem because they were too busy to notice when it started.

10. Options- having options have never helped in marriages. Once they set in, distraction also comes and then you start having series of thoughts running through your mind. Leave the options out, you are married to just that awesome loyal man/woman.