Wednesday, 5 November 2014

KCB Readers (Top 10 Reasons Why Nigerian Men Cheat)

Men cheat for all sorts of flimzy reasons and ladies cannot still wrap their minds around why this is so. We are not saying all men cheat. It’s in every man’s DNA to do this, some just control the impulse more than others. Often times than not this singular action can bring an end to a one time beautiful relationship. So why can’t they stop? Why can’t the women understand? Why won’t a man just save himself and shut his eyes to what is not his? The reasons are below.

1. Men are just so insearchable: Some men cheat because they know they can. It’s all about the fun and adventure for them. So why steal the heart of one woman if you cannot commit to her fully. They just cannot be questioned. This category of men tell you “cheating runs through our blood streams”.

2. To boost his ego: Some men are not just the one lady kind of men. For them, the more women you have, the more respect you earn. This is just unnecessary attention that these set of men try to get for themselves.


3. To show off: Truth be told this will only be a reason if he has cheating friends. Who are you trying to impress if not the same calibre of people who do just what you are into. If a man has true and good friends, his chances of cheating just to show off will be very low. So what other reason?

4. Declined fun: When a man stops having fun with his woman in bed, he tends to look outside. Your intimacy level should never be at the bottom. Don’t act like grand-parents and people from the 30s. Spice things up and blow his mind. It’s ok to play pillow fights or tickle time.

5. Fallen out of love: At this point, nothing the woman will do will get him interested. If the love is not there anymore, it is advisable you try to find the spark again, go for counselling or just end it. It takes love to stay faithful.

6. Ladies attitude and Habits: Stop with the blind arguments and constant nagging, it drives men crazy. No one wants to come home to an unclean wife. As much as you can, balance your kitchen time, work time and bathroom time. Hygiene is not just wealth but happiness. Stay clean and quiet (with sense) for your man.

7. Check-check: Some men just want to try their lucks and test run cheating, just to know if they really can do it. This is foolish but it happens

8. Revenge: If you did it to him in the past, this may just be a way of saying “revenge is best served cold”. It doesn’t really make any sense. Why stick with her after her action, only to pay her back when she least expects it. More of wickedness that revenge.

9. He did it in the past and you let it go. Never leave the issue of cheating unaddressed. It gives room for more baggage and lies. Remember once beaten twice shy.

10. Communication: Don’t stay quiet about your relationship. If you want something say it. If you want more state it. Call each other, text each other. Don’t wait till you get home by 9pm to talk just because you think you know his daily movements. There’s nothing like wasting credit on daytime calls. Find out where he is, how he’s faring, if he has eaten, if he misses you etc. Talk behind closed doors and when you are out.  When your communication is intact, there’s almost no topic that is left untouched. You are aware of what your man wants. Most times he may not even be able to say some things, so ladies you must always be at alert and observant. At any point you feel he’s cheating please ask him. Don’t confront him, talk to him. When you call a man baby he tends to act like one. So be subtle and involved in your man’s life.

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