Being in a relationship means putting a whole lot of faith in someone who was, at one point, a total stranger to you. It’s all a bit terrifying when you really think about it.
So can you ever really tell what someone’s thinking and feeling, or if they’re being truly honest with you? Basically, no. But there are some clues in someone’s behaviour as to how they really feel and whether they’re lying or not. Here’s what to look out for…
1. If your other half is suddenly spouting religious phrases like
‘I swear to Jesus’ or ‘God no’, then they may be trying to hard to cover
something up.
2. Watch their hands. Are they trying to
make them disappear, possibly into their pockets, behind their backs or under
their legs? If yes, this could be a sign that they’re hiding more than just
their palms.
3. A common misconception about cheats and
liars is that they can’t provide detail about their lie, but actually, they may
go into too much detail.
If they can’t stop talking and appear to be saying things as they occur to
them, it might be that it’s all fabricated.
4. You know your partner best. Are they finding
it more difficult than usual to
maintain eye contact? Then they could be feeling guilty. And if
they’ve fixed an unusually strong stare on your eyes, they could be doing so in
an effort to try to control your opinion of them.
5. If there are noticeable pauses before they answer questions,
they could be buying themselves time to think of a response. Equally, answering
too soon and speaking quickly is an indication that they’re desperately trying
to convince you of something.
6. If they repeat more than one of your questions,
they’re probably using the time to think of a reasonable answer.
7. Are they suddenly being super honest but about
something that you’re not actually asking them about? For example, you question
who they had dinner with this evening and they’re more concerned with
apologising for how much they spent on the dinner than discussing who they ate
with. They’re trying to deflect attention by admitting to a lesser offence.
8. Any attempt to cover their mouth – however apparently
subconscious – could well be a sign that they’re uncomfortable with what
they’re saying or hiding something from you.
9. Very strange but true: when lying, some
people’s nasal tissues engorge, causing their noses to itch. So an unexplained sniff
could give away more than you think…
10. And finally… take a step back and try to look at it objectively:
ask yourself whether you’d believe their story if it was one of your friends’
partners. If it now sounds implausible, then it probably is.
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